Regarding Potential – A No Perspective

No, you do not have unlimited potential. Your potential is as limited as the capacity of your heart and body’s health.
No, you may not hide behind this fact and use it as a excuse to complain about life passing you by.
I know of a lot of people in wheelchairs or people that are visually impaired that live a full and meaningful life.
No, you cannot become anything you want to. But yes, you can become more than what you are now. Most people have not even scratched the surface of their ability. They stagnate in a childish expectation that someone or something must come and give them their dream life. Most of us are no longer children depending on caregivers, we have in us everything we need to create the life we want. All we need to do is take the effort to identify what we want, plan how we are going to get it and then start the hard work of creating ourselves. It is the expectation that things must come easy that prevent us from achieving our dreams.

No, you are not too weak (or untalented or underprivileged) to create the life you want. We, humans are stronger than we thing we are. We have inherent strength that allows us to not just cope, but also thrive. You and I just need to tap into this inner strength. How? By choosing to believe the truth that you can, rather than the lie that you cannot.

Understanding that you are limited and embracing the reality of it liberates you from unrealistic grandiose mental pictures of yourself and allows you to see the real you. The real you that you can work with. Instinctively we know those grandiose pictures are unreachable and we either never start or become discouraged on our way of creating our real life.

The liberation lies in the acceptance of both your strengths and your weakness. The real you. No need to make excused for the weakness, just accept and manage it. It does not define you. It is merely the shadows that give your life depth. If something comes along that falls inside the sphere of your weakness, as for help. We can go so much further through collaboration than shackling ourselves with a egocentric “I can do it myself”. Start using others strength.

Focus on your strengths. It will bring you joy. Share it with others, it will make your life meaningful. It will also make creating the life you want easier. In the end, embrace being limited and wisely channel your limited energy to bring you the most out of life.



Uphill and Downhill

Life is like riding a bicycle. At first you struggle to find your balance. You often fall over and need a lot of assistance. Until you get the hang of it, then the joyous freedom of riding like the wind makes us laugh with pleasure.

Once you have mastered the ability to ride a bicycle you never forget it either. Included in this experience of freedom, is the knowledge that you can still fall. My serious cycling friends divide the world of cycling in two:

  1. Those that have fallen and
  2. Those who are still going to fall.

There are basically only two reasons why we fall, either because of an accident or because we are too arrogant. The first fall is outside our circle of influence (and yes we can take precautions), the second fall is because we overestimate our influence.

In life it is the same. We have to master the art of living. In this process of finding our balance we know two things. We can taste the freedom and joy of being alive and we can anticipate that we are going to fall.

So we have the choice: Take the risk to live and feel the wind in your hair or make sure you never fall and do not get on the bike.

When we choose to get on the bike of our life, we will encounter up hills and downhills. The struggle to get to the top of the hill has burning lungs and painful muscles as part of the package.  But we know that every up hill has a downhill.

The downhill is trilling and exiting but unfortunately very short in comparison to the uphill struggle. A bit unfair, don’t you agree?

Recently I looked back after an exhilarating downhill, feeling let down after the energy intensive uphill. I realized that the secret and the challenge of optimally living, is to find the joy in the uphill.

This asks for a major mind shift (I suppose it is something like shifting gears on your bicycle). We will have to change our belief system that joy is in the pleasurable reward. We will have to start appreciating the burning lungs and tired legs. Seeing the beauty of having the power to paddle up the hill. Experiencing the engagement with reality in every breath of being present in the moment.

Suddenly the joy of freedom takes a deeper meaning. We do not have to wait for an exiting experience. We can create it in the middle of our current uphill life.

Still paddling