Wise Choices

The decisions that shape a conscious life

When you are afraid and anxious, don’t trust the voice of fear.

When you are in a chaotic situation, find a way to bring order and calm.

When faced with an angry conflict, make no decision until the anger has subsided.

When meeting resistance to your ideas, consider the viewpoint of those who resist you.

When you are tempted to condemn someone else, see if what you hate in them is hidden away in yourself.

When you are in trouble, decide if the situation is one you should put up with, try to fix, or walk away. Having decided, act accordingly.

When you know the truth, speak up for it.

– Deepak Chopra

The Law of Detachment

Today Deepak Chopra spoke to me powerfully, and I would like to share with you.
In detachment lies the wisdom of uncertainty . . . in the wisdom of uncertainty lies the freedom from our past, from the known, which is the prison of past conditioning. And in our willingness to step into the unknown, the field of all possibilities, we surrender ourselves to the creative mind that orchestrates the dance of the universe.
I will put the Law of Detachment into effect by making a commitment to take the following steps:
1. Today I will commit myself to detachment. I will allow myself and those around me the freedom to be as they are. I will not rigidly impose my idea of how things should be. I will not force solutions on problems, thereby creating new problems. I will participate in everything with detached involvement.
2. Today I will factor in uncertainty as an essential ingredient of my experience. In my willingness to accept uncertainty, solutions will spontaneously emerge out of the problem, out of the confusion, order and chaos. The more uncertain things seem to be, the more secure I will feel, because uncertainty is my path to freedom. Through the wisdom of uncertainty, I will find my security.
3. I will step into the field of all possibilities and anticipate the excitement that can occur when I remain open to an infinity of choices. When I step into the field of all possibilities, I will experience all the fun, adventure, magic and mystery of life.
Taken from the Chopra Center http://www.chopra.com/dailyinspiration

Dealing with disappointment

Dealing disappointment has always been a bit challenging.

Recently I had to deal with it. From last year I was offered a opportunity that I really wanted. It would have soothed a lot of needs. Needs like feeling more confidant in dealing with my clients, a need to expand my boundaries and travel the world.

Well, this week I received the news that this opportunity was not to be as I envisioned it.

I recognized the source of the disappointment I felt. The attachment to this specific outcome, the expectation that something new an exiting was to come my way. Both of these characters are well known to me and I have come to trust their consistency to disappoint.

Unfortunately I have not yet cut myself from them. They frequently come to visit.

I am grateful to share that, although they are still visitors, I have grown to deal with them more effectively. Deepak Chopra is one of my guides in this. In one of his laws he states “trusting that when things don’t seem to go my way, there is a reason, and that the cosmic plan has designs for me much grander than even those I have conceived.”

The first step in dealing with disappointment then is to acknowledge that my expectations or imaginations are limited. Through this acknowledgment I can release the outcome to come to its own fullness and not be bound by my shortsightedness.

Hand in hand with this law of intention and desire, is the law of commitment. Commitment is different from attachment in that attachment is a emotional weight we put on a specific outcome. As we have seen. This weight is also the weight of our disappointment.

Commitment on the other hand is an engagement to a cause. In this engagement there is a knowledge that there is a process of creation. And in this process the pain of disappointment is just on of the many steps in the  fulfillment of the cause.

It also puts in perspective the needs we have. Needs are signals of deeper growth opportunities. In my case I though the need to be more confidant in dealing with my clients would be fulfilled with more knowledge. I now realize that more knowledge would have inhibited my intuition. Now I have the opportunity to develop this deeper knowledge, which I suspect will result in much more confidence.

So again – this round of disappointment brings with it a gift. I hope yours does too.

Gratefully Disappointed