The decision making process

How to make the right decisions still seems to be a bit elusive so let us explore together.

Jean-Paul Sartre summarizes the previous to post powerfully when he says “It is only in our decisions that we are important.”

To execute our personal authority, from an internal locus of control through and internal locus of causality, is being important as a human being. This process acknowledges the value each of us has. It accentuates the role we play in moving the universe forward in its journey.

But knowing this still does not make the decisions easier does it?

I cannot give you a 5 step decision making recipe. I can think with you and share my thoughts and experience.

The first thing that comes to mind is the fear of making mistakes. I would like to invite  you to think about mistakes in a new way. Mistakes are good. The only way you can really move forward with substance is by making mistakes. It is through making successful mistakes that we can adjust our course.

Good decisions come from experience, and experience comes from bad decisions.

So welcome the mistakes as a learning opportunity. And please loose the bizarre addiction to perfection. There is no such thing.

Like balance and time, perfection is a parasitical figment of human imagination. It also links into the limiting concept of right and wrong.

I believe there is no right or wrong, just good and bad. There is beauty and harmony and flow.

HarmoniousIn your decision making process it is of no value to waste energy on seeking the perfect or the right decision. It has more value to look for a harmonious decision. A harmonious decision is one that accommodates all or most factors affected in the decision in a good way.

Taking into account the facts you have available, listening to your gut, intuition or heart, playing with scenarios of possible outcomes and then choosing any one is the basics of any decision making process.

Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, do not seek perfection, rather engage in the process and create your life. Take responsibility for the outcomes, adjust your course if needed and just be important.

With harmony


The authority of decisive mistakes (Part 2)

We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them” in this quote Kahlil Gibran highlights the value of knowing how our decision making process works.  As we are still trying to answer the question: How do I know I am making the best decision?

We now know that we have personal authority. How we distribute this authority is an important part of our decision making process. This distribution is influenced by our locus of control and its twin sister locus of causality.

Locus of control is the place from which control is exercised. We constantly move between an internal and an external locus of control.

If we have an internal locus of control we choose how to react. With an external locus of control we allow someone or something else to dictate how to react. (Keeping or giving your personal authority).

Locus of causality is the place from which things are caused. Again this locus moves on an internal or external continuum. We can take initiative (internal) and make things happen or we can allow things to happen to us (external).

In my mind, the departure point of every decision making process starts with either an internal or external locus of control and causality.

Let me try and make it practical. In every decision we make, we either depart from an “I have the power to choose how I will influence the outcome of this decision” or “I will allow something or someone to dictate how the outcome will be determined”. And of course there are plenty of combination’s of these two continuum’s.


The challenge is, like Noam Chomsky rightly said, is not to fall for the constant pressure to make people feel that they are helpless, that the only role they can have is to ratify decisions and to consume, but to make your own decisions with insight.

“A wise man makes his own decisions; an ignorant man follows public opinion” – Chinese Proverb

By choice