“The trouble with the world”, said the Master with a sigh, “is that human beings refuse to grow up”.

“When can a person be said to have grown up”? asked a disciple.

“On the day he does not need to be lied to about anything”.


As long as a man stands in his own way, everything seems to be in his way. — Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 -1882)


The Master once told the story of a priceless antique bowl that fetched a fortune at a public auction. It had been used by a tramp who ended his days in poverty, quite unaware of the value of the bowl with which he begged for pennies.

When a disciple asked the Master what the bowl stood for, the Master said, “Your self”!

Asked to elaborate, he said, “All your attention is focused on the penny knowledge you collect from books and teachers. You would do better to pay attention to the bowl in which you hold it”.

MORSEL: Education is what survives when what has been learned has been forgotten. –B.F. Skinner

Knowledge that is not applied is useless. – H

A Banana in your ear

Who is responsible for your life this year?  You?

One of the most uncomfortable truths about life is that you are responsible for yourself.   If things go wrong in our life, you did it. If things work out, you did it. It is also one of the most liberating truths once we accept it. Once accepted it sets in motion the dynamics to co-create a reality that is desired by all.

I would like to share part of a story Anthony de Mello told. He captured this truth in a interesting way.

Do you think you help people because you are in love with them? Well, I’ve got news for you. You are never in love with anyone. You’re only in love with your prejudiced and hopeful idea of that person. Take a minute to think about that: You are never in love with anyone, you’re in love with your prejudiced idea of that person. Isn’t that how you fall out of love? Your idea changes, doesn’t it? “How could you let me down when I trusted you so much”? you say to someone. Did you really trust them? You never trusted anyone. Come off it!

That’s part of society’s brainwashing. You never trust anyone. You only trust your judgment about that person. So what are you complaining about? The fact is that you don’t like to say, “My judgment was lousy”. That’s not very flattering to you, is it? So you prefer to say, “How could you have let me down”? So there it is: People don’t really want to grow up, people don’t really want to change, people don’t really want to be happy. As someone so wisely said to me, “Don’t try to make them happy, you’ll only get in trouble. Don’t try to teach a pig to sing; it wastes your time and it irritates the pig”.

Like the businessman who goes into a bar, sits down, and sees this fellow with a banana in his ear – a banana in his ear! And he thinks, “I wonder if I should mention that to him. No, it’s none of my business”. But the thought nags at him. So after having a drink or two, he says to the fellow, “Excuse me, ah, you’ve got a banana in your ear”. The fellow says, “What”? The businessman repeats, “You’ve got a banana in your ear. “Again the fellow says, “What was that”? “You’ve got a banana in your ear!” the businessman shouts. “Talk louder”, the fellow says, “I’ve got a banana in my ear!” So it’s useless. “Give up, give up, give up”, I say to myself. Say your thing and get out of here. And if they profit, that’s fine, and if they don’t, too bad!

My question is – Are you aware of the banana in your own ear? Or are you hang up about the banana in the other guy’s ear? What are you going to do about your banana? Let me know.

With Bananas



The Master seemed quite impervious to what people thought of him. When the disciples asked how he had attained this stage of inner freedom, he laughed aloud and said:

“Till I was twenty I did not care what people thought of me.

After twenty I worried endlessly about what my neighbours thought.

Then one day after fifty I suddenly saw that they hardly ever thought of me at all”.


If you don’t run your own life, somebody else will. — John Atkinson


“Where shall I look for Enlightenment”?
” Here”.
” When will it happen”?
“It is happening right now”.
“Then why don’t I experience it”?
“Because you do not look”.
“What should I look for”?
“Nothing, just look”.
“At what”?
“Anything your eyes alight upon”.
“Must I look in a special kind of way”?
“No. The ordinary way will do”.
“But don’t I always look the ordinary way”?
” No”.
“Why ever not”?
“Because to look you must be here. You’re mostly somewhere else”.

The eye sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend. — Henri L. Bergson

With thanks to Anthony de Mello

Finding Happiness

“Why is everybody here so happy expect me”?

“Because they have learned to see goodness and beauty everywhere”, said the Master.

“Why don’t I see goodness and beauty everywhere”?

“Because you cannot see outside of you what you fail to see inside”.

It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and impossible to find it elsewhere. — Agnes Repplier

With thanks to Anthony de Mello