Never look for a boss, always look for a client

Sean’s dad gave him this advice: “Never look for a boss, always look for a client.”

I try and communicate the same message to my clients and young people who ask for career advice. In today’s economy, for you to be successful, view your career as your own business.

I am not saying everybody has to start their own small business. I am referring to the way we think about work.

Starting your own business is a dream a lot of people have. If the market is open for your idea, go for it! And if I may share from my experience, it is enjoyable en challenging at the same time. So before you take the plunge, make sure you do your homework properly. Ask advice, write a proper business plan yourself (if you ask someone to write it for you, make sure you are involved every step of the way), and get get a business coach. It is worth the investment. Also know that it takes up to 5 years to start up a business, so have patience. It is worth it.

The advice Sean’s dad gave has more to it though. Like I said, it speaks to the way we think about work. It asks us to change our mental maps from seeing work as a necessary evil, something we do to pay our bills, to seeing our abilities, energy and knowledge as a product we sell to our employer. Our boss or the organization we work for becomes our client. And in the competitive world we live in, good client service plays a major role in sustainable success.

It ask that we start thinking like entrepreneurs about our work, creating the habit of asking “Where is the biggest need and how can I address is?” And of course, taking the initiative to act on the answers we get.

With this mentality, we be come a major contributor, adding value to the organization. We move our salary from the expense side of the cash flow statement tot the asset side. We become the dreamed of and elusive engaged employee that all business owners look for.

And when you choose to go on your own, this mentality will help you succeed as a business owner as well.

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Maybe I am wrong

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The Power of Outrospection

Partnering with Possibility

The setting is in the “location” as informal settlements are called here is South Africa. The school is hedged in by a security fence that is slack at the corners. The buildings are squashed into a small piece of land. Surrounding the school is a open field, a filling station with no roof and a mechanic fixing a car on stilts.

Inside the school hall, the wooden floor has pieces missing, but the curtains are clean. The chairs are old with the mileage of 100′s of children ‘s sitting on them, but the projector board is sparking white, the glasses polished and the water cold.

Partners for Possibility launch  St Bernard's High school Batho 19 March 2013

Partners for Possibility launch St Bernard’s High school Batho 19 March 2013


We are a group of 12 people. Myself and Veronica, 2 observers and 4 partnerships. We are launching the first Partners for Possibility Circle in Bloemfontein. Business leaders partnering with Principles of under funded schools. Four brave partnership, 8 men and women that defiantly stands up against the educational crisis our country is experiencing. The objective: Take one school at a time and change it onto a center where every child will get a quality education.

Not by complaining about what the government did or did not do. Not just throwing money at the problem. No, 8 men and women committing themselves to change. First themselves, then the school, then the community. Committed to become responsible citizens.

As we start, the excitement grows, we talk about logistics, but a stream of energy is escaping. First a trickle but later we could not contain it any more. Possibilities of one school helping another, new ways of raising funds and the camaraderie of not facing my problems alone anymore, intertwine.

I see an inspired light of determination go on in the principals eyes as we honestly face the challenges. Oozing out of them is a defiant attitude and deep knowing that these challenges will be overcome. I see in the business leaders an excitement as they see the possibilities of real time change. Were their input is appreciated for just coming from them and no price tag attached.

After three hours, I walk away with a sense of gratitude. I am grateful that I can be present in this circle of brave men and women. Men and women that are in the arena, daring to do a great thing. And I am privileged to be part of them.

See, “it is not the critic who counts, … but the one that is actually in the arena”

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Look Well to This Day

Look well to this day,
For it and it alone is life.
In its brief course
Lie all the essence of your existence:
The Glory of Growth
The Satisfaction of Achievement
The Splendor of Beauty
For yesterday is but a dream,
And tomorrow is but a vision.
But today well lived makes every yesterday a dream of happiness,
And every tomorrow a vision of hope.
- Anonymous, 50 B.C.

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The Scientific Method of the Mind: What Sherlock Homes teaches us

The little Mare taught me a lesson

Tonight a lesson I learned two years ago is still powerfully resonating within me.

wild_horses_running_card-p137309000032994250q6k5_400It happened in a work-group of Equine Assisted Therapist. We were practicing our skills, mentoring each other and exposing ourselves to the beautiful influence the horses had on us. Little did I know what was in store for me.
We were practicing “Join up”, an exercise made popular by Monty Roberts. In this exercise, you had get the horse to trust you by only using non-verbal signals. The technique is to assert your authority by dictating which way and when the horse may run, constantly looking for signs of trust. When the signs are there you turn your back to the horse and allow the horse to approach you and then walk out of the lunge ring with the horse following you.

I did the exercise with a little mare, Indian Magic. I went into the ring and started to assert my authority and Indian Magic bolted. She leaped right over the fence and ran for the fields.

Of course I had to go and fetch her. As I approached her, she came to me. I let the halter unfold to catch her and she ran away. This repeated itself a few times. After a while I gave up and started to walk back to the stables and wouldn’t you know? Indian Magic followed me. I stopped and she stopped. I walked, she followed. In the end we came to the stables, walking at an arm’s length of each other.

There are so many powerful lessons in this experience, but the one I want to share is that on that day, I realized that the pictures in my head, of how the world should look like, limits me.

That I had to open my eyes and start seeing what is really happening. That I must not be a slave to my expectations of how things should be, but be liberated by how things actually are.

Yes, sure. Be clear about what you want (I wanted Indian Magic to trust me) and then go with the flow in pursuing this vision. Don’t hold yourself back, pay attention, and let reality enrich you. Go beyond the picture in your head.
When you stop expecting things to be a certain way, you can appreciate them for what they are. Ultimately you will realize that life’s greatest gifts are rarely wrapped the way you expected.

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